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Amy Arvary, M.ht.: Posted on Friday, December 07, 2012 11:15 AM
 The time has come.
The life I was living and the life I’ve dreamed of living are colliding
now more and more. I have been my
very best client. The creator in
me is constantly hungry and the visualizations I have been feeding it are
actually being created. But it’s
not like just creating the picture- it’s more like you step INTO the
picture. You imagine what it LOOKS
like. Then you imagine what it FEELS
like. And then you practice. THAT’S IT.
That’s it because all of a sudden you find yourself in a place
that the two get glued together so well that you find yourself in that
vibration even longer. And then
even longer until it gets flipped and you experience THAT more positive
vibration and existence more than the you that just imagined it.
 Want to try it out? Want to see if it works? Doing this allows you to imagine even BIGGER. To see past whatever limitation you
find as you proceed through your journey.
And you will find them- your limitations. A very good friend of mine recently asked the question, “If
there was no fear how would it be” and it hit something in me. It helped me to identify that all of my
limitations are anchored by fear.
How about you? Think about
what you tell yourself that keeps you held back from progressing in some way…
what is your excuse? Once you get
that it should be easier to find what fear it is connected to.
Once you find the fear anchor, make peace with it. Contemplate whether it is a truth you
need to still believe and hold on to.
If it is not, accept that it may have been necessary to get you through
a period in your life but it is no longer needed.
And then do something different. Change YOUR role in that interaction. Say something different. Do something different. We are responsible for our output. If that is true, readjust your position
if needed and watch the outcome.
You will notice something positive if you provide and connect with
positive.
Any questions?
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Amy Arvary, M.ht.: Posted on Sunday, July 29, 2012 9:58 PM
Day 7
 So there I was, day 7 of my 30 day fast...
That's what I've been telling myself all day as if I was looking back on this day and it was really really good. Then I do that.
It's been 7 days of no chewing for me. I've been ingesting vegetables and a little fruit by way of juicing. This has been 7 days of hard-core habit awareness; Witnessing at its finest. This absence of food has also provided a clear picture of just what my food connections are- and they are connected to everything! (Well, they were)
This first week has provided for me a starting point as well as an ending point. My previous food impulses have been connected now with a better response. I don't require the comfort of food any longer. I am consciously changing my programming- my perception. Once I become aware of an old desire or problem or challenge concerning food I change it... I change it.
 Day 7 is way better than day 2 or day 5 and 6. On day 2 I felt like I had the flu- killer headache and my whole body hurt. Day 5 and 6 were emotional painful- I was angry and I even cried sporadically. But, I conclude the first week feeling very aware and focused. I am limiting my exposure to old eating situations like going to restaurants or being around people during their times of eating ; ) Not being able to escape making meals for my 6 yr. old of course was a challenge in the beginning. I have changed that to a game of how can we improve the nutritional content of her meal... that is fun and feels good. At the end of these 30 days we will both have better eating habits and be feeling fabulous.
So Here we go... week 2. I am open to all of the blessings and opportunities each one of these new moments provide. Here's to creating the future. Much Love.
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Amy Arvary, M.ht.: Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2012 3:15 PM
Tips for
helping children behave (especially in
public)
I thought it was time to write down some of the tips I’ve acquired that concern children and behavior, as I’ve learned what I have about the brain and how it works. What I learned is that while you are thinking about something, you feel as you do about it. If you want to change how you feel, changing your thoughts helps us do that immediately. Just as I say, “ Imagine the tip of your left pinky finger… where the nail meets the skin…” Do you think of it? Did you think of your pinky because I mentioned it? You did that because that is how quickly our brain responds.
Tip 1. Keep a picture or small item (from a special time or event) that represents something special to the child with you.
Yes. Helping a child regain composure during a meltdown may be painful and embarrassing, not to mention the discomfort your child perceives at that time. There seems to be great debate over how to handle a situation like a meltdown like let them ride it out or leave immediately or yell or whatever… if you have tried these techniques I’d like you to pause and ask yourself how helpful your response was in the moment.
Keeping a picture of a grandparent or a party or a vacation or an item or toy that they really want for their birthday or special holiday… (Big breath…) you get the picture… it helps take your child’s thoughts to a more pleasant place. You can make this even more effective by asking them questions about it, even if you know the answers ; )
Ask questions like, “Hey remember this? Where/who is this again? Do you remember that thing in the picture…? What do you think happened right before this? What is your favorite thing about this? Can you make up a sentence/song/rhyme/or draw a picture about the picture? Can you spell something in the picture?
These questions will take their focus to something better. Once they’ve calmed down and appear to be past the issue, ask them what happened and explain why that behavior isn’t helpful or necessary.
Tip 2. A simple game of ‘I spy’ with extra OMG
This tip is great if you find yourself out and are caught empty handed without anything handy to keep your kids busy. Look around you and spot something ANYTHING that either you don’t see often or haven’t seen in awhile (not a person) and get excited while smiling and saying, “OMG you are never going to find what I am looking at! It is soooo _____________” This usually leads to a game of I spy which can be changed as your child develops I spy colors… I spy words that start with ___... I spy numbers …
Tip 3. Text Message back and forth
I noticed a long time ago how technology has changed the interpersonal dynamic. Being more of a “find the solution girl”, I established some rules like no cell phone at the table for meals. Please know my daughter was 4 when I did this knowing that when she is grown she will have a phone and I probably will want to use our dining times to connect. I figured our meals are relatively short and whatever needed me could wait the 30 minutes. Also, it was a perfect opportunity to demonstrate the behavior I hope to create.
This is what led me to texting with my child. I remember when she was beginning to read that I looked for every practical experience for her to do so… signs, menus, airport terminals… everything. But sometimes there is nothing to read and nowhere to go as you get stuck waiting in line or for an appointment or for whatever presents a time where you can text and you need to keep kids busy and have fun… text them. Hand them your phone and say here… and let them read your message for them. Then let them respond to you via text. Hand the phone back and forth…after a few texts you may be happy to learn what you do… and you will both have fun while doing it.
Tip 4. Start them on a story.
This is one I use all the time and changes just as much as I use it. I simply start a story using something that I see for example… “Once there was this really cool girl who sat down to write some really helpful stuff for parents…” then they have to look around and continue the story using something they see. Example “But that girl decided to step away from her desk and go play with the fairies living in her backyard…”
Start stories about the cars you see driving or the foods you see in the market or the stars in the sky… about the waves in the ocean and the mermaids that live deep below.
When you run out of time for your part and you’ve got them interested, tell them to draw a picture of it or write a story about it.
How smart and well behaved your children are now. Thanks for reading. You do make a difference in your child’s life. Much Love.
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Amy Arvary, M.ht.: Posted on Thursday, April 19, 2012 1:20 PM
 I was persuaded this morning to write today about a
situation that I recently experienced.
Surprise to many, everything isn’t always sunshine and smiles in this
positive world I am creating; There are events (apparently), that take place
that may be perceived as unpleasant and even hurtful. I experienced just that a few days ago and with all of my
practice on perception and energy, my world was still rocked. Since then, I have been dealing with
and trying to manipulate the thoughts presenting themselves as “surprised
betrayal”.
I am sharing my experience because I have learned to trust
that there is meaning in every single moment of every single day of our
lives. I have learned that our
world is what we create it to be; that we can hold on to and feel about things
however we choose to. This
philosophy was put to the test as I tried to disconnect from the hurtful words
echoing in my mind and stinging my heart.
It felt as if I was hit with a blast of sudden and negatively charge
energy. Like a powerful and
painful wave… and it took me down.
 Two days later, I couldn’t get out of bed because I didn’t
know what to do. I felt that
everything was shook up. Nothing
was clear through all of the hurt and sadness I felt. Normally, I do not get out of bed without a plan for the day-
I start by giving thanks, review my plans, write down any ideas to explore and
then proceed. But I couldn’t
because of the feelings that had surfaced. I seemed to be attached to them even though I didn’t want to
be. It was as if I was
experiencing a trauma to my soul, my insides were wounded and everything inside
was exposed and it was painful. I
chose to heal my wound by treating the cause, but what was it exactly?
The things echoing in my mind led me to question what I am
doing with my life. I questioned
whether I should give up or continue on this path. Perhaps I should conform to the expectations put on me and
forgo what I have decided my whole life’s purpose is. My heart hurt and I couldn’t think clearly. Nothing felt right. Nothing felt good.
Eventually, as I realized that nothing felt good, I knew
something didn’t match up… my mind said I was not good enough to continue but
everything in me knew that there is not another option for me. That disconnect allowed me search the
root of the issue or the origin of that thought… the cause of the wound.
 Before I began practicing and teaching positive self-talk
and hypnosis and coaching and speaking, before I began living life from a
positive point of view, I questioned and thought long and hard about how I
wanted to live. I knew I would
have to overcome many obstacles myself, I changed much of the negative self
talk and self-belief I carried about myself and the world around me. This recent event brought me right back
to those questions. I questioned
my greatness. I questioned my
path.
Once I became aware of this I immediately knew the
“treatment”. I had to let it go. Before I went to sleep last night I gave thanks for this
event, acknowledging that the most painful events provide an equally extreme
greatness. That something good
comes out of all things. What
determines the distance between where you are and where you want to be is
directly related to the actions you take in between. In my experience, the worse the storm the greater the
rainbow. I decided to trust. I decided to be grateful. I decided to give it up to my higher
power and just be silent. I put on
my stress relief CD and I went to sleep.
 I am out of bed writing this with a fever- a fire burning
brighter in me than ever before.
The rainbow I am experiencing today supersedes any pain I felt only
hours before. I needed to share
this as an example of the real power of our minds. I needed to go through the process with you and let you know
that I do understand pain and suffering. I needed to share with you that I also know how to get to the other side
of that very quickly and effectively.
Thank you for reading this. Thank you for the strength you provide for me. Now if you’ll excuse me I have some
greatness to attend to… see you soon.
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