I have been blessed with the people- every person that has entered my life, at every stage. The people who have helped make things better, the supporters and the people who have contributed to the pain I have experienced. I am grateful. It is a wonderful gift how people enter our lives through circumstances we sometimes are unaware of... new jobs, friends of friends, extended family, the food store, the gym... we meet people everyday, we interact and we respond. Sometimes we judge. Occasionally we open up to a connection. I have been blessed with wonderful connections.
I remember first learning about the Law of Attraction and beginning to understand that what you put out you receive. How energy attracts like energy. I practiced and practiced. I became very conscious of what I omit, understanding that it will return. I now radiate love. That love that comes from deep inside. The gratitude, appreciative, respectful, spiritual kind of love. Today, I am connected to people from all over the world who support and add like value to my life.
One of these people has been very connected with me along her journey of awakening. I am honored to share some of the automatic writing she has created. I would like to note that she is still equally shocked and proud of what comes from within her, but she is now connected to source, to that love I speak about.
Her name is Jessalyn Szczepanik and I suggest you friend her on Facebook. She is inspirational, supportive and full of experience and love. I will be posting some of her automatic writing here because, quite frankly, I think people should see it. So without further ado, here is Jessalyn's 1st automatic writing creation. Much Love.
oh btw... the subject of her email was Holy Sh*#!!
"I have no idea what is going on with me today. I have no idea where this came from but I couldn't NOT write it. I had too, I was being pulled to write all day. Supernaturally pulled. I know this sounds weird but I swear I was pushed into the chair in front of my computer as I was walking by it today to get a glass of water. I am amazed and freaked all at the same time. I can feel myself changing Amy....I can feel it.
Love Advice? Advice on Love? How about we use the LOA....
This morning I was given the opportunity to provide advice on relationships; men and love in general. It was as much a profound experience for myself, as I hope it was for the other person. I would by no means say I am an expert on this topic, nor do I have the greatest track record to go on. I have however embraced all of my experiences as lessons. Lessons I would never trade, experiences I am so grateful to have had. Regret is never a word I use, I am a firm believer that all of your moments count in a beautiful way. All of your experiences are lessons that helped to create who you are today, to create your journey. The more exciting the lessons, the more interesting your story is to tell right?
Now I would like to preface this by stating a fact I have come to recently realize about myself.....I have never actually been in love. I have had times that I thought I may have been, but after reflecting on those relationships I know I definitely was not. I have loved many people and I love many people. I love my friends, my family, my children. I am in love with myself. I always make an effort to treat everyone I meet with love and kindness. Needless to say I spread a lot of love on a daily basis.
There are questions we need help answering at times. We have people in our lives we turn to for help or to encourage us see our questions in a different light. I believe I am asked for advice because I am honest, I am true. I will not lie to you and will always encourage every person I meet to be the best they can be. I certainly do not think it is because I have all the answers. I myself have friends I turn to for the same reasons. These friends provide me with sound advice, honesty and the encouragement to grow. I turn to these friends, as people turn to me. I do not give you answers, I encourage you to see the paths available to you. I encourage you to see the many sides of a situation and ask you to weigh the benefits of each path you could take. Suggestions are made to promote thoughts or ideas that help you create solutions or new avenues of thought. I focus on your needs and the outcome of your personal desires without any of my own ideals influencing your situation. Your situation is unique to you after all, it is not mine to shape. It is not my outcome. I help a person use all of this to create the personal best in their own life. I enjoy helping people, I find excitement in the experience of seeing another find an answer that was unclear to them before a good discussion.
It is a beautiful experience to see minds opening to possibilities, or ideas, that are so new that it allows for the expansion of a new way of thinking they didn't know existed. Everyone has a journey, a path that is being lain stone by stone with every new step.
I am 100% certain I am in love with my children but with children, it is a different kind of love. It is a love of growth. Of protection. Of seeing and encouraging the body-mind-spirit of a soul that was gifted to you. I wonder, however, if this form of love could be looked at in an attempt to make sense of the non parental loves? You do not pick your children. They are, as I stated before, gifted to you. You are given their bodies, their minds, their souls. Your children arrive in this world, full of wonder with a soul already formed. Their fibers of personality, their brain, their core intact. As we nurture these little bodies, outside sources will play a role in their learned behaviors, but they were born as individual beings full of their own unique predetermined intuitiveness and nature.
So in seeing the all encompassing love for your child, why is it that we have so many questions on what love is in other relationships? Male and female, friendships, family? Why do so many individuals not hold a knowledge of this feeling of love?
I have been told by some that true love, or divine love as I like to call it, comes to you when you least expect it. When you are in a state of existence purely focused on your own sense of self, during your time of personal growth. When love could even be viewed as inconvenient or not ideal for you at the time. Love may make it's presence known in a person whom you would not think to choose for yourself necessarily. Who arrives in an unexpected moment. This person could show up as a stranger in your life, as an acquaintance or in a friend.
It is my experience, and I have done this as well, too many men and women actively seek or chase the idea of love. We do this in hopes that the perfect person will come along to sweep us off our feet in a moment of passion. We do this as an act of societal expectation, because as we all know, for so many of us marriage becomes an expectation once you reach a certain age. Intimacy becomes acceptable where it may not have been otherwise. In this day and age, marriage is still looked at as a form of stability, of normalcy. Free love, sexual expression and casual relationships continue to be viewed as taboo in many a household. So does the single woman, you spend the first 18 years trying to keep your daughter away from boys and then the next 20 wondering why she isn't married.
Unfortunately, from these expectations come behaviors which result in our thoughts generally heading into a state of relationships every time our primal urges kick in; finding one, being in one, keeping one. We do this in a state of insecurity, in an unhealthy state of need. When these actions are taken, more often than not we find ourselves with a person who is not a good match therefore falling 'out of love' or speeding into a rut of unhappiness, anger, disappointment. You should never be in any relationship out of need. Love was never present. Lust was there rearing it's head in a moment of admiration. Momentary acts of passion and excitement, yes. Love? No.
Love in any degree, whether it is a friendship or romantic, should promote personal growth. Love should always bring with it happiness and encouragement. It will add positive factors into your life making it even more fabulous than you had already created it to be. Love should never take away or decrease. It will never ask you to change or cause you discomfort. Love should never be forced, it is a pure and healthy emotion when occurring in it's natural form.
After many years practicing the law of attraction in all aspects of my life; practicing meditation, opening my mind to the universe, embracing the experience of awakening, I have developed a description of what love means to me. I believe love, as with everything, is individual to each person. What love means to you will be different than what it is to me. The characteristics in a partner which will make me happy, will be different than yours. What I value in a partner may be at the bottom of your list and vice versa. For example, a lot of woman view a man's ability to provide as a top priority where I have a man's gift of making me laugh in that same spot. There is nothing right or wrong with this; your personal experiences, individual characteristics and your being as a whole have a hand in molding your perception of everything.
My experience with love thus far has opened my eyes to the many types of unique bonds you can be blessed with when you are open to receiving. As I said above, love for your children is a special kind. Love however, can show it's face in many a form I have come to realize. Over the years I have connected to people I consider my inner circle, or more adequately described, my circle of love. My circle of love is built of individuals who have proven themselves to me time and time again in a variety of ways, and I to them. With their love and friendship I been given strength, trust, compassion, encouragement, wisdom. I have been blessed with the ability to surrender to the knowledge that I am completely, and uniquely, accepted in their eyes, minds and hearts. I enjoy the gift of laughter, love, safety, protection, intimacy, music and happiness. Each person in my circle brings joy and peace to my already wonderful life. These individuals are ever present in my mind every moment of my day. In return, I provide the same qualities to each of these beautiful individuals as they do to me. We are grateful for each other and show appreciation in many forms; quality moments, thoughtful gestures, listening and contributing to each others lives. We continue to always live in a circle of love, our circle never breaking the golden thread of such a beautifully unique and special bond.
From my experiences of pure love with the members of my circle, I have concluded what divine love will be for me. I will attempt to put in words, what I know for myself, will be deeply felt as indescribable.......
What I believe, or envision divine love to be in it's original form is friendship. When a friendship evolves into love, it adds a quality I would describe as an inner fire. Friendship on fire is divine love. This fire brings with it a feeling of deep companionship ignited by an inner passion for that one person in your minds eye, that one person who matches your core in the deepest state imaginable. That person who is always in your focus, in your mind, ever present. Whose face brings with it a sense of calm, whose smell ignites a passion within your soul. Whose presence and touch create a sense of security, of protection, of familiarity. Whose eyes see yours and twinkle with the words you love to hear. Whose voice provides the same feeling of serene comfort the sound of the waves and feel of beach sand have always given you. The importance of their happiness and seeing their smile becomes parellel to your own. Always striving to promote even more love, enrichment and joy into each other daily lives. Always giving. Love is laughter everyday, love is acceptance, the ability and comfort of being 100% yourself with this person. A pure connection so natural, so easy, so effortless that it is described as "just being". It is a unique acceptance of each others characteristics, of understanding the fibers and experiences that this person is built upon. You are two people intertwined by your similarities, kept interested by your differences and connected by your inner spirit. The inner spirit that was present and recognizable from your day of introduction. This divine love brings with it the desire to grow together, to encourage each other to be the best form of ourselves, for ourselves, and also for each other.
In conclusion to this dialogue, I guess we could ask ourselves to do a few things. If we want to create and have love in our lives this is some advice I believe we must follow.
Be completely open to receiving love in all forms. Live every moment in a state of pure love. Give love to everything you do, send love into the universe with every breath. Wake each day, and fall asleep each night, with the pure intention of becoming an even better you than you were the day before. Be it, see it and put your love into it. Continue to grow, continue to evolve.
Be ever present in the moment.